HELP TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN AND GRIEF AFTER THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE.
Unfortunately we do not talk about death until we have to face up to it, but I believe that we should, it is inevitable that one of each loving couple will die and leave the other behind, it would help to ease the pain of the grieving period.
put you in a place that is alien to your normal life, you will query
your thoughts, feelings and actions, this website may help you to know
that it is normal.Sharing
this website with your partner will introduce the subject of death and
allow you to talk together about your feelings and wishes for when that
lyric of a popular song read, "Regret's, I've had a few, but, then
again, too few to mention", that is about right for most folk, none of
us can go through a life without a few regrets. Of course, the song
title is "My Way", and we all do things, "our way", and in a loving
relationship we understand that our partner has His/Her way, and we
learn to do it "our way, together".
The lesson here is to those that
are still in that loving relationship and by giving a little thought to
the things that you do and say now matter a great deal. Don't leave
anything that you wish to say go unsaid because one day, for one of you,
it will be too late to have regrets.
If that "regret" is after
the loss of a loved one, I can tell you, it's normal and you are normal
to have these thoughts. After the loss of a loved one you will probably
find that you are having regrets more often, the truth is that you
probably do not have as much, if anything, to regret as you think that
Bereavement and grieving put us in a place where the
mind magnifies our thoughts, enlarges that that was probably minor at
the time, and that is only if the "regret" that you are considering is
one that your lost loved one remarked upon at that time. He/She is no
longer here to ask.
Yes, there probably was something that you
meant to say at the time, something that you didn't say and, in your
mind, probably should have. Something you wish that you had done, or
hadn't done, the list is endless and obvious to you now. I'm sorry, it's
But, give your "regret" a bit more thought. You,
possibly knew that loved one better than anyone else in the world and
He/She likewise, knew you. You had fallen in love, made a life together,
understood each other, shared, and probably had the odd disagreement,
the two of you were as one. I feel certain that had anything occurred
that you may now be feeling you regret, He/She would have made that
clear at the time, so, Why have that regret now?