AFTER LOSS

Bereavement, loss, death, grieving, memorials, angel letters, poems,

depression after grieving, grief, guilt. 

 After Loss maybe the place that can help you through this painful period that follows the loss of a loved one.

HELP  TO UNDERSTAND  YOUR PAIN AND GRIEF AFTER THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE.

Bereavement will put you in a place that is alien to your normal life, you will query your thought, feelings and actions, this website may help you to know that it is normal.

 

 Click on the above link to email the author on any item on this website. I will give any help where I can on any subject.

A new article on http://afterloss.yolasite.com debates MEDIUMS, PSYCHICS and CLAIRVOYANTS

 and can be found on the FORUM page of the site.

 

 "After Loss"  is the uprated website previously titled "Words Can Help"  http://www.wordscanhelp.co.uk/ 

 I hope that it is more user friendly and it contains new articles that may help all those recently bereaved.  Trevor.

There is no secret to the answer of losing someone, the problem is that the answer is the secret. And the answer is only secret, because we have never needed to ask the question up until now. The loss of a loved one, even if you knew it was coming, causes grief and pain, and there is no answer to the feelings that you have, you must, and you will want to, live with these for a while, and the grief and feelings fade into the back of your mind.

It is at this point when the feelings that you now have are starting. Many, many little things, that without you realising, are building up within yourself. 

Feelings of guilt and your probably have nothing to be guilty about. Feelings of blame, and you probably have nothing to blame yourself for, and believe me, we all have these feelings. Then there are words, words that you wish that you had said, words that you wish that you had not said, things that you wish you had and had not done. Each of these things are 'nagging' away at you. If that is how you are feeling,  maybe, and I hope so, "After Loss" may help you.. 

 Please use the Forum, ( click on Forum at top of page ) to leave your comment on this website or with any ideas for improving the site.  Thanks.

GRIEF.

It is the most natural thing in the world to grieve over your loss, but, you are still alive and life must be lived. Of course your life has changed, of course everything will now be different, how could it not be.

Your loved one is still with you, not in a form that you will recognise, but within your memory, you will never forget. That memory of all the love that  he/she gave to you, all the things that they did for you, the things that you shared together, the good times and the bad times, those memories will remain until the day that you die, as inevitably, we all must, and, possibly, leave behind someone that is grieving for our passing. 

 

For those that truly believe in the after life, perhaps they get their peace of mind, I sincerely hope so.
But what about the rest of us. If you read my story you may feel as I did, family, friends and even acquaintances said "I'm here if you want to talk". I am sure that they meant what they were saying, but I could not do it, maybe they were the wrong people to talk to, maybe it has to be someone that starts off as a stranger, maybe it has to be someone that is, or has been, through the same emotions. Please use the pages of this website to write an Angel letter or post on the Forum, you can also contact the author via the email link to place a memorium. No email addresses will ever be held or used.

 

GUILT?

"One of your symptoms is probably feelings of guilt. Yet another symptom that comes with bereavment. You are almost certainly, guilty of nothing. That does not stop the feeling, Did I do the right things? Could I have done more? Did I say the right things? Why wasn't it me?" 

See "My Story", click at top of this page.

BEREAVEMENT. GRIEVING or MOURNING the LOSS of a LOVED ONE. DEPRESSION from GRIEVING. How long should we grieve? Will we cope with GRIEF? How do we cope with GRIEF?.

IS THERE AN ANSWER TO THESE QUESTIONS?

 "After Loss"  is a place to visit for those recently bereaved and a place for friends and family to read and help to understand the pain and actions of the bereaved person.

There is no one answer. We are all different. We all manage our loss differently.

You are probably now feeling the same way as I did just a short time ago, lost in a world that is alien to the world that you once knew, you are now, because of your grief, a person that you do not recognise as yourself. 

 If you spend a few minutes reading "My Story" (click on link at top of this page ) you will notice  a lot of similarities to the way that you are feeling now. Losing someone is not easy, I know because I experienced it after forty years of happy marriage  when I lost my wife.

You may contact the author of this website via link above this item..

 

THANK YOU for visiting this website. I truly believe that you will discover something here that will help you or allow you to go forward into the rest of your life. As it is written in ECCLESIASTES 3 verse 1, "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: a time to be born and a time to die;......." That time for the loved one of any loving partnership to face will always be a time of pain when the mind plays many tricks. You can not be prepared for this loss but I hope that the words that you can read on "After Loss" will help you to know that you are not alone, the feelings that you have are shared by all others and in your own time you will take you in to that next part of your life.

Believe me, you will not forget, but, remember these lines from Christina Rossetti, "....Yet if you should forget me for a while and afterwards remember, do not grieve. For if the darkness and corruption leave a vestige of the thoughts that once I had, better by far you should forget and smile, than that you should remember and be sad". .

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 At the end of our lifes road there maybe a road that lies around the bend.

GUILT?

"One of your symptoms is probably feelings of guilt. Yet another symptom that comes with bereavment. You are almost certainly, guilty of nothing. That does not stop the feeling, Did I do the right things? Could I have done more? Did I say the right things? Why wasn't it me?" 

See "My Story", click at top of this page.

 

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LOST?

"You sit down to watch the television, and ten minutes later you realise that you have no idea of what you have been watching, you turn off the television and do what you seem to be doing so often, roam around the house, going from room to room, you will never admit to your self that you are hoping to see someone sitting there".  

See "My Story". click at top of this page.

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 A helpful forum can be visited at the "SAGA" website,

http://www.sagazone.co.uk/forums/board/122/ 

where you may find help from reading the messages from others recently bereaved.

To FORUM. Click Here. To MY STORY. Click Here. To POEMS. Click Here. About DEPRESSION. Click Here. To BLOG. Click Here. An ANSWER? Click Here. ANGEL LETTERS. Click Here

 Exploring Positive Emotions In Loss and Grief.

by Tabitha Jayne in this month edition of Open to Hope newsletter.  http://opentohope.com/

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The content of this website is a personal view by the author of the website and I have no professional training as a counsellor trained to give guidence on personal problems.  It is my personal belief that this website can help those that visit the website in understanding that they are not alone in  handling the symptoms that cause the worry during the period following bereavement.

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